A Pattern can be a comfortable position that you thought was best for you at the time. Being comfortable in a Pattern can ruin your life. For relationships, the pattern of allowing things to happen just because you have become accustom to them can be an overwhelming feeling. The Pattern of abuse, the pattern of being judged, the pattern of not waiting until marriage can be a preconditioned circumstance that you are being set up for, by living within a pattern of things. Oh wow, the person you are dating or married to is great so you think, they aren’t everything on our list, but we have no one else. We have become comfortable in this pattern of not wanting to be alone. Oh everyone else is married, why not me? Sometimes it’s due to us not going against the pattern of the norm.